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What is a Gentelman?
Monday, October 30, 2006 @ 2:19 PM

What is a Gentleman?


What exactly is a gentleman?
The true gentleman is...
tender towards the bashful,
gentle towards the distant,
and merciful towards the absurd.
He never speaks of himself except when compelled,
never defends himself by a mere retort,
he has no ears for slander or gossip,
is scrupulous in imputing motives to those who interfere with him,
and interprets everything for the best.
He is never mean or little in his disputes,
never takes unfair advantage,
never mistakes personalities or sharp sayings for arguments,
or insinuates evil which he dare not say out.
From a long-sighted prudence,
he observes the maxim of the ancient sage,
that we should ever conduct ourselves towards our enemy
as if he were one day to be our friend.
He has too much good sense to be affronted at insults,
he is too well employed to remember injuries,
and too indolent to bear malice.
He is patient, forbearing,
and resigned,on philosophical principles;
he submits to pain, because it is inevitable,
to bereavement,because it is irreparable,
and to death, because it is his destiny.
If he engages in controversy of any kind,
his disciplined intellect preserves him from the blunder.'
[From The Idea of a University, 1852]
Etiquette Of A Gentleman:
Always be polite.
Do not curse.
Do not speak loudly.
Do not lose your temper.
Do not stare.
Do not interrupt.
Do not laugh at others' mistakes.
Respect your elders.

The basics of chivalry: What to do in the presence of a lady
Always open doors.
This is perhaps the most basic rule of male etiquette out there.
It is also one of the easiest to follow so you have no reason to forget it.
Whether she is about to enter your car,
restaurant, club, or anyplace with a door,
you should always hold it open.
If there are many doors,
then hold them open one after the other.
Help with her seat.
If an unaccompanied lady is sitting next to you,
it is important that you help her be seated by pulling her chair
out for her and gently pushing it back into place, with the lady seated of course.
Give up your seat.
If a lady arrives at the table and there are no available seats,
you should stand up and offer yours to her.
Stand at attention.
Always stand when a lady enters or exits the room.
This rule has been somewhat relaxed,
so you can stand upon entrance but remain seated upon exit.
Nonetheless, if you can do both, you should.
Ask if she needs anything.
This is one that most guys already do,
but helps complete the gentleman in all of us nevertheless.
When at social events,
make sure to ask the lady if you can get her something to drink
(or eat, depending on the event).
Show her that you care about her comfort and needs.
These are the rules of etiquette you should observe in everyday life.
Elevate yourself above the rabble and display the mannerisms of a true gentleman.
The world will appreciate such a rarity.
[From Etiquette Of A Gentleman by Michael Bucci]
There are very few true gentlemen remaining among us.
A gentleman is much appreciated and being gentlemanly is a noble thing.
Let's all strive to be true gentlemen!
(So is there really a GENTELMAN in this world..??)